To man, distance is safety, to women, closeness is safety. This is not only in the physical reality but in the mental sense.

This is a quote from Mr. Mercedes. It pretty much embodies all that I have been trying to convey to a friend of mine who is questioning why people do the things they do. It also explains why my friend who lives in a cave and doesn't want to tell me "how" he is doing, does what he does... and I don't know how it will all turn out, but I hope he sees the light at the end of the cave...